How to be a life changer: 5 steps for success

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Do you struggle with HOW to motivate your friend or loved one to get fit and healthy? Do you want to learn HOW to be a life changer? Read on…

Serious topic today.

REALLY serious.

We all have that person in our life that is unhealthy. Right? I 100% guarantee that RIGHT NOW, as you read this, you have at least 2-3 people that you know that need to exercise or change their diets. It’s close to 70% of the population so…yes, you know someone. 

Have you ever tried and completely failed to motivate someone? Trust me. We have all been there and eventually we just give up because, as the saying goes, “You can lead a horse to water….”

You care about this person or these people and you want to help but NOTHING seems to work.

In my many years as a fitness coach I have seen many people try and most have failed. These tips come from my observations and experiences.

It’s not easy and it’s not guaranteed to work but here are the 5 steps that you need to take.

Step 1: COMMIT to the journey yourself.

OK, what I am about to say is going to seem like I’m talking out of both sides of my mouth but bear with me; there is a great point.

Don’t be a hypocrite. In other words don’t tell someone that they need to get healthy when you aren’t healthy yourself. Seriously. You can’t be lecturing someone about being unhealthy when you are in line at McDonalds. Have you ever seen an overweight person on Facebook check in at a pizza place one day then lecture the world about the dangers of Diet Coke the next day.

I see it all the time.

Now, let me rewind a little.

In order to empower someone else and change a life you DO NOT need to be a picture of health. You do, however, need to be living a fit life and you need to be committed to it. There is a HUGE difference. The first step is all about you. Be moving in the right direction before you try to get someone to follow you.

Don’t be a hypocrite.

Step 2: SHARE with the world the positive feeling that you have from your journey.

Don’t brag. Don’t inflate the truth. Just be proud of what you are doing.

What does this do? This creates a feeling in your world that fitness and health are a good thing and that it works. Don’t do before and after pictures and don’t worry as much about numeric results. Just post a picture on Facebook of your smile at the gym or your nutritious dinner.

Attract and don’t repel! Saying you lost 20 pounds in 10 days can repel some people. Being positive and happy will attract virtually everyone! Don’t lecure. Just be happy.

Step 3: INVITE your loved one to JOIN YOU.

Why do we, as leaders, expect others to do what we are unwilling to do?

Here are the words that you could use: “Hey _____, a few (weeks / months / years) ago I started working out at (No Limits Fitness / CrossFit / Gold’s Gym / YMCA) it it has made me feel amazing. I really love how much better I feel now then I used to. I was wondering if you would join me on Tuesday at 7pm for a (class / workout / session)? Will you come as my guest?”

So what comes next? You are either going to get a lame excuse or you are going to get a workout partner. If they say no then go back to step 1 and find a new person. If they say yes go to step 4.

Step 4: ENCOURAGE he or she to keep coming until it becomes a lifestyle.

Working out or eating a healthy meal once doesn’t create a fit person. It’s a lifestyle. After your loved one joins you for a walk or a workout ASK AGAIN. Keep asking until they ask you….

Step 5: Leaders show the way and LEAD. Grow more leaders.

To do this process means you are a leader. What’s next? You’ve create another leader who, in turn, create more leaders and more lives are changed.

Most people do this whole process wrong. We make fun of people in a roundabout way or we make people feel bad about themselves which doesn’t work. To help and empower people to make a change we must do it in a way they let THEM make decisions that create change and a better life. Give people the power to change and give them the opportunity to grow along the way.


In the end…everybody wins. Please share if you found this valuable. THANK YOU.

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